First Timothy 5 speaks of treating people in the church as family. We are not to, “ . . . sharply rebuke an older man, but rather appeal to him as a father, and to the younger men as brothers, to the older women as mothers, and to the younger women as sisters, in all purity.” We are to be particularly careful of windows. The first in line to be responsible for widows is her family, the most responsible of them being her own children. Following them are her extended family, primarily her nephews. If there are none, the responsibility falls to the church.
However, God speaks very strongly against widows having a life of ease. There is an obvious difference between the woman who "continues in prayers and supplications night and day" (we suppose for food and basic needs) - - and the woman of verse six who lives in pleasure (not having to worry about food and shelter).
In contrast to these is the widow shown in verse 10. This woman has enough to have performed good works, brought up children, lodged strangers, washed less Saints feed, relieved the afflicted, followed good works. Apparently, she had something to work with when her husband died. She spends her time actively pursuing God's work rather than "wandering about from house to house."
Then there is the younger widow. The Bible says it is better for the younger widows to marry, to bear children and guide the house, then to risk a time of idleness where they can learn a and use poisonous tongue.
A conclusion to draw is: do not draw automatic conclusions about a woman who is a widow. Before offering help, whether church or family, we must consider her true situation.
