Titus 2:4, 5
(4) . . . so that [the older women] may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, (5) to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.
The Bible uses a woman as an example to illustrate loyalty. She is to keep her loyalty in one place, to the people God defines as important to her. This loyalty takes the first precedence over other places which might side-line or even oppose her family and children.
We can only be truly loyal to one place, not several. When there are different simultaneous requirements to several loyalties, we must choose one and let the others fall aside. What are other loyalties? They can include work outside or inside the home, her birth family like her mother father brothers sisters etc. They might be her friends, her ardent beliefs such as politics or perhaps a different church.
There are no exceptions. As the Bible says, if a husband is to "love his wife as himself" he also must have the same kind of loyalty, or better, toward his wife and family.
